I love sharing my top tips for finding love.
Working with singles day in, day out, I see and experience a lot. I work with people who are a breeze and others who are more challenging to match. What I can say for all of them is that if they trust me, if they listen to what I share with them, they’ll have a greater shot at finding love. Why? Read on….
I have a dream job, well in my eyes anyway 😎 Working with incredible single people has taught me more than I could have dreamed of and there are certain patterns, traits and behaviors that I can recognize in all the people I have successfully matched. This knowledge formed the basis of my 7 top tips to finding love that I shared with Women’s Health magazine earlier this month.
Tips for Finding Love
1/ Change your mindset
One recent study showed that you should expect to kiss 15 men and have two serious relationships before you meet ‘the one.’ Does that mean you should go on a wild snogging spree until you find lucky number 16? Of course not. But try to go in to each date with an open mind, an open heart and neutral expectations. Remember, a first date is just a chance to meet someone new and see whether you are interested enough to find out more about the person and vice-versa. Some dates will go well and others won’t, and that’s OK. It’s part and parcel of dating and accepting that will make it a much more enjoyable and stress-free journey.
2/ Do some soul-searching
If you’ve only got as far as thinking ‘tall, devilishly handsome and loaded’ then you might need to give it a bit more thought. The couples I successfully match are the ones who are focused on what the relationship will be like, instead of focusing solely on what he/she will be like. So, what does your ideal relationship look like? Where would you holiday? How would you spend your weekends? What qualities will he have that will keep you happy one year, five years and 20 years down the line? Thinking of the bigger picture will help you focus on meeting the right person.
3/ Get with the times
One in four relationships now start online, so it’s a great place to start. There are tons of free sites to choose from, or look out for free three-day trials from the big names which give you the perfect opportunity to take a look around the website before committing to a membership. Don’t just stick to one method of dating though, we’re spoilt for choice with pheromone parties (yes, it’s a real thing), matchmaking, speed dating, apps like Tinder, and even a singles sleep over in the Shard! Take every available opportunity to meet new and interesting people. Who knows where ‘the one’ might be? The possibilities are endless. And hey, worst comes to worst – at least you’ve tried something fun and new.
Want more? Read my 7 top tips for finding love: http://www.womenshealthmag.co.uk/sex-love/wh-dating/2035/7-tips-for-finding-love-from-a-professional-matchmaker#ixzz3HpQ5cpLF