The title of this post is a bit of a giggle really, but it’s amazing how many people have asked me ‘did you fall out at all?’ meaning Christian and I on our recent holiday.
Why would we fall out? We’re on holiday! I’m practically skipping everywhere i’m so happy – if we’re going to fall out it will be on a miserable November day when we’re both tired from work, it’s cold and we’re a bit grumpy. Not when i’m on a cruise around the Med sipping a pina colada 😎
I got chatting with friends and they told me they usually end up having a row on holiday with their partner. Whether it’s a release of built up stress/life pressures releasing when you finally relax a little or the need to make the holiday ‘perfect’ – what is it that makes couples row when they should be enjoying a blissful break from reality? Whatever the root here are 3 mini tips for you to make the most of your holiday with your partner without so much as a cross word said:
1) Decide what you both want from the holiday
Are you wanting an action packed trip climbing mountains whilst he’s dreaming of sleeping in till noon? Before you go (and before you even consider booking) talk about what it is you want from the holiday. This is where compromise is key and you may want to plan a mix of chilled and active days to suit both your needs. For me, planning is one of the most enjoyable parts of a holiday aside from actually being there and it’s a great way to bond. Be open with one another, as always open communication will make sure you’re both on the same page.
2) Give yourself a bit of time apart
In day to day life it’s rare we spend every 24 hours with our partner, except for the weekend and even then we usually have friends and family milling around. Suddenly, on holiday you’re together all day everyday and it can get intense. Give yourself a bit of time apart. Book yourself into the spa for an afternoon of pampering, take your book to a quiet spot for a few hours chilling or wave him off as goes to play a round of golf. On our recent cruise I spent a blissful few hours watching the sea whilst C took a nap. When he fancied a salad and I wanted to laze in the sun he was more than happy to have relaxing lunch on his own. A bit of timeout from one another can do you both the world of good.
3) Plan for awesome not perfect
Your baggage goes missing, you forgot your favourite bikini, the flight is delayed or he has a tummy upset. There are a number of things that can happen on holiday, many of which you have no control over. Plan for perfect and you may be disappointed if something doesn’t go to plan. Rather than aiming for perfection, aim to have a fabulous time no matter what. If the weather is a wash out don’t throw a strop go dancing in the rain together, dig out the cards and grab a wine glass. Whatever happens you’re there to spend time together – enjoy it!
C and I had a great holiday but like the above, it certainly wasn’t perfect. Bar 2 sunny days it was overcast and chilly, we didn’t like the hotel in Barcelona and the flight going we had the worse turbulence ever – so much so I sat crying with a sick bag in front of me! Not the best start 😀 Over all though we had a fab time together and I loved having some ‘tech free’ time – no emails, no beeping phone, no Facebook, it was bliss.
Here are a few pics from our Cruise on board Oasis of the Seas – the biggest cruise ship in the world!
Thanks for stopping by.
Caroline x
