It’s time to talk online dating. Online dating in midlife to be precise and who better to talk about it then a woman who has been there, done that and got the stories that prove it?! Todays guest post is by Jacqui Wright, a middle aged goddess living in Manchester with her gorgeous gay housemate. Both are looking for their Prince Charming – could online dating by the key?
Online Dating in midlife is a whole new ball game
Whatever reasons you have for starting online dating when you’re in your prime, there are a few things to consider. It is totally different than when you were dating in your late teens/twenties.
Everyone has baggage. Most have come out of a long term relationship and while some may be looking for a new partner,you need to realise that some are not. Older guys still think they’re players, especially the fat, bald ugly ones sat in a warden controlled flat with access to a computer who send a message to EVERYONE and then get huffy when you don’t reply. Don’t feel bad about ignoring them. When I first started I replied to everyone, but unfortunately this was a green light to a couple of guys who, let’s just say, got a bit giddy.
You might find yourself enjoying a bit of banter on-line with someone, arrange to meet and then at the last minute he might disappear or cancel at the last minute. Don’t ever think this is because of you. It’s not. Chances are he’s living with someone and just seeing what’s on offer. Or alternatively he could turn up and the witty, cheeky, guy you were having fun with online is an old man wearing a fleece, jogging bottoms and old trainers while you’ve turned up giving Joan Collins a run for her money. It’s all part of the game.
Some guys will say they don’t smoke, then turn up smelling like an ashtray. Some guys will put an older photo on and turn up 3 stone heavier than you expected.And some guys will spend all evening talking about their ex. These are usually the kind of dates where I’ve gone home a bit drunk as it eases the pain.
But hopefully most of the guys are looking for the same thing as you. They’ll have the same family values, and you can both look at photos of each other’s grandchildren. They’ve learned some lessons from past relationships and know what they want. They don’t want to date a string of women but they don’t want to drop their standards either, and why should they? Don’t be shy about messaging someone you like the look of either,some guys appreciate that. They might have wanted to get in touch with you but for whatever reason they thought you might not be interested. But whatever happens and whatever it is you’re looking for, the main thing is to have some fun.
Now go get ‘em girls.
Jacqueline x
Twitter: @awrightdisaster
Blog: For more form Jacqueline pop on over to her blog A Wright Disaster
