I’ve got a real treat for you today – 7 ways you can become irresistibly attractive.
The super fantabulous Monika Nybom, Transformational Dating and Relationship Coach who works with those who desire loving relationships, has written a post just for you. Yes you! Last week when we were gossiping, erm I mean working, via Skype Monika said so many things that had me nodding along in agreement that I had to ask her to get some of her thoughts down to share with you guys. Monika has 7 golden nuggets of advice for you on how to become irresistibly attractive….because who doesn’t want that?!
7 Ways You Can Become Irresistibly Attractive
Look, you are amazing. You don’t need any advice on how you should talk, what you should wear, and how you should act. What you need is to celebrate yourself, fall deeply in love with who you are, and promote your strengths. That’s attraction. This means you stop criticising yourself. Stop it. I mean it. It’s not working for you, and if it was, you wouldn’t be reading this. There’s nothing wrong with seeking advice, but learn to take only that which speaks to your heart. The rest is meant for someone else.
Here are seven ways you can become more attractive and happier.
1) Start by embracing your vulnerability:
If you’re having trouble opening up to another person, it could be that you are afraid of being vulnerable. Being vulnerable means being authentic, but before you can share your most intimate self with others, you must learn to accept yourself. Start by challenging your perceived flaws. Are your flaws really flaws? What if someone else sees it as a positive trait? When I was in my early teens, I was teased because I had slanted eyes. Today, it’s what people compliment me on the most. It’s what makes me unique. In the words of Dr. Dain Heer from Access Consciousness, “What if every wrongness of you is actually a strong-ness of you?” Read that last sentence a few times and let it sink in.
2) Make self-love a priority:
Before you can share love with others, you must learn to love yourself. That’s the only way it works because you can’t receive from others that which you can’t give to yourself. By making self-love a priority, you learn to appreciate yourself in ways you never knew were possible. This boosts your inner power, confidence, and self-worth, which exudes attractiveness. The most effective way to boost self-appreciation is to invoke it daily. Do this by taking a few moments every day to give yourself compliments in the mirror. Use Louise Hay’s “I love you” mirror exercise and tell your reflection that you love who you are. You can say anything you like to your reflection, and remember to keep it empowering and positive.
3) Become mindful in your relationships and in your life:
We spend most of our time being too busy to stop and appreciate life as we’re living it. When was the last time you made a conscious effort to live in the present? Being present will help you to slow down and focus on your surroundings. Remind yourself throughout the day to periodically stop what you’re doing and bring yourself to awareness. Ask yourself questions like, “What am I seeing, feeling and hearing right now?” I also tell myself, “I’m here now,” to bring myself back from the past or imaginary future. Do whatever works for you while keeping in mind that the present moment is the only moment in which you can capture opportunities. Learn to honour it.
4) Integrate Meditation into your daily routine:
Meditation is an excellent tool for relaxation, reflection, and for grounding yourself in the present moment. Meditation connects you with your wise inner self and authentic desires, making it worth your while to include it in your daily schedule. If you are a beginner, start with 10 minutes per day. All you need to do is find a quiet space where you can clear your head of all thoughts and concentrate on your breathing. Imagine serene imagery and focus on releasing any negative energy you may have. If you need help getting started, join my free member list and receive a guided meditation upon signing up. It’s 10 minutes long, and you can download it on your phone and listen to it wherever you are. Take me to where I can sign up!
5) Enjoy your own company:
When was the last time you treated yourself to a night out alone? Being alone shouldn’t be miserable. In fact, learning to enjoy your time alone will improve the quality of your romantic relationships. Whole people are perfectly fine enjoying time by themselves. In fact, they think they are pretty good fun to be around and even enjoy their own company. If you’re able to take on the world solo, dating will be a breeze. The next time you have a weekend to yourself, pamper yourself and live a little. Go out for a movie, treat yourself to dinner, and revel in your own company. Be mindful of how it feels. Enjoy the journey without judgment. Just be. Be who you are, and get familiar with how that feels. Remember to be kind to yourself in the process.
6) Be grateful:
Gratitude increases the amount of dopamine produced by the brain, improving your mood and making you happier overall. Give your brain a boost by reminding yourself daily of everything you are grateful for. Express gratitude for everything, even the small stuff like a little getting extra sleep or eating an especially good meal. Giving gratitude changes your reference point for happiness because it helps you realise that you actually have more than you thought. Everyone has something to be grateful for, especially in times of hardship, and it actually feels liberating to give thanks when life is not working out. Try it. It really works. On a bad day, I remind myself that I am healthy, my children are healthy, and that I have a roof over my head. Imagining life for me without these things makes me appreciate my life despite everything negative that I might be experiencing. On a good day, being grateful will just make you feel even better than you already do.
7) Let go of the past:
Don’t let past transgressions hold you back from romantic fulfillment. Bitterness and regret will taint your relationships and prevent you from forming meaningful connections. The past is gone—learn from it and move on. There’s something positive to learn from every situation in life. Learn the positive lesson, forgive those who have wronged you, forgive the situation, and let it go. Forgiveness isn’t for anyone else; it’s only for you. When you forgive easily, it frees up more space for you to be here now. It frees up space for you to be open to new opportunities. You never know who you’ll meet tomorrow, so learn to trust in your life instead of trying to control it, and let go of whatever is holding you back.
Are there any areas that you are struggling with when it comes to attracting loving relationships? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let me know, and I will do my best to help you out.
With much love and gratitude,