Can You Find Love on Tinder?
It turns out you can…….
I know, i’m shocking even myself as the words come out my mouth!
I’m not the worlds biggest fan of Tinder. It’s hugely undermining and encourages us all to be shallow - do we really need any more of that in our World? To judge whether someone might be a compatible partner based on a photo, and to discard another human being at the swipe of a finger is not new, but it is pretty disgusting when you stop and think about it. Needless to say it doesn’t bring out the best in us.
I’m not a totally party pooper though. I get it. It’s fun. You get to see hundreds of people who are (supposedly) single and you can spend your mundane Monday night bantering with a cute guy safe in the knowledge he doesn’t know you’re wearing your 3 year old threadbare Primark PJs. They aint sexy but they are comfy! ;) He goes quiet? Move on to the next.
Tinder – Online dating on heat
Tinder was launched in September 2012 and is reported to have 10 million active users a day.
What I would love to know is how many of those 10 million are:
- Looking for love?
- looking for sex?
- Filling time on a long commute?
Should you try Tinder?
One of my client’s at Mutual Attraction asked me if I thought she should try Tinder. My gut reaction was to scream ‘ARE YOU CRAZY?!’ But then I would be going against my own advice.
I have always stood by the view that, if looking for love, you should put yourself in as many opportunities as possible to meet likeminded people. Be it online, socialising, singles events, matchmaking or being an active part of groups that interest you. Tinder falls into that category.
What concerns me about dating apps like Tinder and ones that are focussed solely on looks, is that as a matchmaker I see the after effect. The number of people I meet who haven’t thought further than what their ideal man would look like is increasing. They haven’t thought of the qualities that will make him into a man they love and respect. They have however, thought about what his hair style will be.
Do you want the Tinder truth?
You will probably end up with someone exactly like the guy you just left swiped.
That’s because we rarely end up with someone we would pick out the crowd if we knew nothing about them. Don’t believe me? Ask friends who are in happy relationships if they would have met their partner if it was based on just 1 little photo. Then ask them again for their honest answer
Even after saying all that, if I’m asked the question ‘can you find love on Tinder’ my response will always be yes. Because you can find love hiding in all sorts of places. You just have to have your brain switched on and separate the wheat from the chaff. There’s a lot of chaff (and chavs!) on Tinder, but equally, there are kind, loving and incredible men (and women – you being one them!). Don’t believe me?
Here’s a few Tinder love stories for you:
And finally, just to make you laugh….
Now it’s over to you – what do you think, can you find love on Tinder? I would love to hear you stories the good, the bad and the strange! Please share in the comment section below.
Thanks so much for reading, date safe
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