A Mutual Attraction Wedding!

Congratulations Amy and Josh on your wedding, Another Mutual Attraction couple :)
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A big congratulations to Amy and Josh, a couple I matched 3 years ago who are today getting married :-P 

I could not be happier for this gorgeous couple who deserve so much love and happiness. Amy joined Mutual Attraction because she found she wasn’t meeting the right type of guys, she has a great job in the medical field, works and plays hard and online dating was becoming a bit of a bore. She wanted to meet someone on her wave length without the randomness of blind dates.

Josh was the fifth guy she met through us and I know she won’t mind me saying (because we’ve joked about it with Josh!) that after the first date she wasn’t too sure. She thought he was nice enough but wasn’t sure she fancied him! Fortunately, over the next few dates things went from better to better and  shortly after both put their memberships on hold.

The rest you might say, is history!

Have a fantastic day and a wonderful honeymoon in Thailand xx

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Matchmaker Monday Tips

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As many of you know, I run a matchmaker training school called Matchmaker Academy.

I love it, it’s ‘serious fun’ (yes that really does exist!) and I get to work with people who are not only changing their lives, but other peoples too.

I have just launched a new free newsletter called ‘Matchmaker Tip Monday’ where, you guessed it, I send out a new tip on how to become not just a matchmaker, but a reputable and successful one who goes the distance both in business and in supporting their clients.

To celebrate i’m sharing the first tip that went out a few weeks back with you guys. If you’re a matchmaker at heart and want to receive the weekly matchmaker tip then sign up for free here: www.matchmakeracademy.co.uk

Matchmaker Monday Tip #1

Matchmakers often talk about their ‘network’.

Their network is their baby! It’s made up of single men and women in their clients target group. So, for example, if your clients are Jewish females looking to meet a Jewish man then you guessed it, the network will be made up of vetted Jewish men!

Sounds straightforward right? Ask any experienced matchmaker and they will tell you that building your network is one of the hardest parts of the job. Which brings us on nicely to our first matchmaking tip…..

Grow Your Network of Single People From Day 1 and Continue to Grow Daily

Your network is your business. Begin growing and nurturing it from Day 1. Start building your network BEFORE you take on clients. It is never to early to start!
Have a great week and don;t forget sign up to get your free matchmaking tips here: www.matchmakeracademy.co.uk
Much Love
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London Date Idea: Ice Bar

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I’ve often said that the best dates are where you’re doing something. With that in mind I tried out the ICEBAR LONDON to channel my inner Frozen.

Tucked away at the end of Heddon Street you would hardly know it’s there. Today we would be doing the ice bar followed by a 3 course dinner and we opted to do the ice bar first which was a good call.

We arrived 20 minutes before our 6:30pm slot and were served by a friendly guy before taking a seat in the bar.

The Cocktails sounded delicious

Vanilla and Apricot Sour and Lavender Margarita caught my attention. Unfortunately, we didn’t quite have time for them so here’s a tip for you – if you go to the ICEBAR LONDON, get there a bit earlier to have a cocktail! It also builds up the anticipations which I know sounds silly, you know you’re going into a freezing cold freezer but even still there’s something a bit exciting about it!

Soon enough 6:30pm came around and we lined up ready to get our sexy blue jackets. Actually, they could have been worse and were blue ponchos with mittens hanging out the end – kind of like the ones you had at school back in the day :-)

I don’t want to state the obvious here but as you walk in something hits you….

It’s cold. Very cold. Did I mention I don’t do cold well? Yup, great decision to come to an ice bar! ;)

Whilst others dashed for the bar we decided to have a look around. It’s relatively small but big enough and they have some fun additions which of course mean compulsory photos.

Here’s Christian with an icy pineapple….

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Here I am driving an ice bus…..

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Looking ‘cool’….excuse the pun!

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A drink is included so we headed to the bar. They have a special ‘ice bar’ cocktail menu and they all sounded pretty good to me! I opted for a Pineapple Express (Havana Club Especial Rum, Apricot Brandy Liqueur, Cherry Brandy Liqueur, Pineapple Juice, Lemon Juice, Sugar Syrup) whilst Christian settled for the Tropical Sensation (Absolut Blue Vodka, Blueberry Liqueur, Tropical Fruit Juice, Lemon Juice, Strawberry Syrup).

What can I say? We picked well!

Mine kicked a hefty punch and was delicious too. They come in ice glasses (of course) and once you’ve had your cocktail you can head on up the bar again as all the cocktails are available to buy.

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We grabbed a seat and did some people watching.

I had expected a lot of tourists and whilst there were some, there were also a lot of couples on dates and a group of older men who were being all masculine and saying it wasn’t cold enough. They said this whilst sporting bright red noses and hopping from foot to foot so one can only assume they were in fact, freezing :P

Halfway through our 40 minute session I started to get cold toes.

This is the perfect opportunity to test how chivalrous your date is

Do they try to warm you up or do they leave you to fend for yourself as each one of your fingers turn blue? I saw both :P

With 10 minutes to spare we could take no more, I know, what wusses! We were the first to leave but we saw another couple lingering…they just didn’t want to be the first ;)

We headed back into the bar and started to slowly defrost. After a bit of a warm up we headed downstairs to the restaurant and were seated in a nice booth. The package we were on included the ice bar experience and dinner and a drink. Cocktails were in order and very welcomed (and good)…

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First up for both of us was the Icebar Friend Chicken presented in a little bag. This was good but a spicy BBQ sauce would have made it better.

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Next up was burgers all round, well, for the 2 of us. Fatal error on my part. As it was a ‘date’ I had worn a gorgeous dress. You know the type ladies, you feel super-hot in it, except it’s tight. Very tight. And you can’t breathe. But you look good so hey ho. It’s one of those dresses! Half way into my burger and fries (which was so heavy it felt like a brick!) I was stuffed. Luckily Christian managed to polish mine off too ;) It was a shame I couldn’t manage it as it was good.

By the time dessert came we were so full I literally managed a mouthful but my treacle tart was nice and Christian said the dark chocolate parfait was good but I think by then he was too stuffed!

We waddled out of the ice bar having had a great night.

Plenty to keep us entertained, nice food, excellent drinks and good fun

I would say it’s probably a bit much for a first date, but once you’ve hit the third date mark it’s a great way to spend an evening and have fun together.

Check out the ICEBAR LONDON website here.

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Chemistry on a First Date? Don’t Expect it

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Chemistry is such a magical word isn’t it?

It conjures up images of a mysterious potion that makes us fall hopelessly in romantic love.

These days most of us know that first dates don’t always (never!) go to plan. Awkward silences, cringy jokes and jilted conversations are the norm. That’s what happens when you meet a stranger outside the tube and proceed to vet them for the next hour…because no matter how you say you’re not doing that we all know that’s exactly what you’re doing!

That doesn’t mean, though, that we’ve let go of the romantic notion of first dates. Those dreamy ones where it’s love at first sight, where you know that very moment this is going to be the person you marry as they sweep you off your feet. You know, the kind of dates you hear about but never seem to happen to you.

We put too much emphasis on chemistry

Not just chemistry, instantaneous chemistry. We want it to hit us like a ton of bricks and take our breath away. We want to feel floored that we have found them, the elusive ‘one’. About bloody time to. We want to feel so connected and entwined with someone that we feel like we’ve known them all our life. We want to feel a spark, fireworks, zing, whatever you want to call it; you want to feel it.

In a nutshell we want to feel all of the above over a glass on pinot at the local pub with a stranger we met five minutes ago.

Call me an old cynic but isn’t that rather a big ask?

Yes it happens in the movies. Yes it happens to friends of friends (though coincidentally know one you know) and yes it would be fantastic if that happened. But it doesn’t happen for most of us. I bet you’re thinking I’m a real ball of laughs right now aren’t you?

I got the inspiration for this post from a client I’m working with. She told me she wasn’t going to see a guy again who had her in stitches laughing throughout their date. This was the same guy who organised an incredible date for her and who she told me was really cute and smart. As she told me she wasn’t going to see him again because she didn’t feel any romantic chemistry my jaw hit the floor. She had just been raving about him for 10 mins!

Don’t wait for a magic spark to hit you in the face

Those sparks often start out as teeny tiny sizzles that grow. Don’t write off someone you. Give it a chance, take the opportunity, explore and give chemistry a chance to develop. After all, the best things in life are worth taking time for.

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Pstttttt! This is a copy of my article on the Huffington Post which can be found here: Chemistry on a First Date? You’ll be Lucky.

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London Date Idea: Sager + Wilde

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If your date appreciates a good glass of wine then you’ll want to take them to Sager + Wilde, a smart urban wine bar in the heart of Shoreditch.

Before you write it off as a trendy east London venue that will be here today gone tomorrow, and full of, well, Shoreditch types (I love you really!) I can safely say it wasn’t like that at all. In fact it had possibly one of the most diverse clientele I have seen in London and that’s saying something. The real beauty of Sager + Wilde is that it’s for people who enjoy wine. No pretence, no ponce, just good wine at affordable prices in a welcoming, and still pretty cool, bar.

It’s a great London date idea and one that your date probably hasn’t done / been too before, bonus!

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The brains behind Sager + Wilde is a wife/husband due. Photo credit timeout.

Whilst I might be able to tell the difference between a Chablis and a Pinot Grigio (just!) I am no wine buff.

I mean, the very fact I just mentioned Pinot Grigio will probably have wine enthusiasts reaching for the bottle with a stern disapproving shake of the head! But that didn’t matter. Ok I did feel slightly out of place when I didn’t give my glass a theatrical swill but it still tasted good!

It's all about the wine at Sager + Wilde! photo creadit Londonist

My friend and I walked to the bar from Shoreditch High Street though it’s only a stones throw away from Hoxton station. Think exposed brick and shutters and you’re on the right track. Cool, smart and big enough to have a good atmosphere without being so lost you’re lost in a sea of people. The staff were attentive and friendly without being over bearing.

Winemaker Wednesday

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On the night we visited, JM Stephan from Cote-Rotie was in attendance pouring wine from his vineyard.

What can I say? They all slipped down very easily!

Even better was that this wine was slightly lower in alcohol than your typical plonk so I woke up hangover free, icing on the cake really :)

As the night went on all tables were taken and there was lots of hustle and bustle as people sat chatting, drinking wine and snacking from the menu. Sager + Wilde doesn’t have an extensive menu, that’s not what this place is about, but there is plenty for you to graze on whilst chatting to your date. We enjoyed a selection of olives, almonds and sourdough bread with olive oil. We were planning on getting the charcuterie and cheese boards but the night slipped away with us.

Make the effort for your date

One of my bug bears with dates (and any of my male clients at Mutual Attraction will know this!) is when there is no thought put into the venue. There’s a time and a place for your local All Bar One and it’s not on a first date! Time is precious for you both, go somewhere different, go somewhere new, experience something, share in something new together. Sager + Wilde is perfect for that.

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Is Religion the Ultimate Dating Turn Off?

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If you are religious you are facing an uphill battle when online dating. Ouch.

A study conducted into online dating and the ‘selection’ process, (i.e when you sift through profiles and send those cheeky winks) indicated that non-religious participants perceived people, who, like them were not religious, had higher levels of openness and were more appealing as romantic partners than those who stated they were religious.

In other words God’s just aren’t sexy!

What it really a shows though, is that stereotypes are alive and kicking.

The study, published in the Journal Social Psychological and Personality Science highlights it’s not actually a stereotype against all religious people per se. Rather there is a stereotype that religious people are closed minded and uptight.

Seriously? In 2015 do we really think that everyone who is religious is stuck up, narrow minded and set in their ways? I know a fair share of religious people who I didn’t even know practised a religion when I met them. Mainly because they didn’t rock up wearing a giant cross and preaching the bible. They also didn’t try to ‘convert’ me. Nor are they in any way uptight. To be honest, I don’t personally care if someone practises a religion or not. I’m not religious, but I’m happy for them to share their views with me and I’m also happy to respect that it’s their view and one that we likely don’t share.

The point to remember here though, is that the study wasn’t about compatibility and whether someone practising a religion is a good ‘match’ for someone who doesn’t. It’s about the attitude that people who believe in, and follow, a religion are less desirable as a partner that those who don’t.

Those who put they are religious on their dating profiles, even if it is ‘semi-practising’ got far less interaction from other members on the dating site. This is also something I see mirrored at Mutual Attraction.

So, my question to you lovely is:

Would you email that cute guy/girl online if it said in their profile they were religious?

Share your thoughts below :)

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Men’s First Date Fashion

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Here on the blog we often talk about what makes a great date outfit for a woman, but what about all the gorgeous men out there? As I have a serious lack of fashion sense when it comes to guys (like, really really bad!) I asked the team over at fashion and clothing website, The Idle Man, what they think is a great men’s first date outfit and here’s what they have to say:

Men’s First Date Fashion

We’ve all been there and we all know the drill.

You’ve done everything you can to secure a place in her diary. You’ve managed to convince the girl of your dreams that you aren’t a complete Neanderthal and now she is finally willing to go on a date with you. The tricky part? You now have to show this girl that you’re worth the time she’s taken out of her busy schedule to meet you. Nail this and you are one step closer to potentially being somebody’s boyfriend!

What to wear on your date?

First and foremost, don’t wear a suit.

This isn’t a job interview and you’re certainly not supposed to be at work. But if you really can’t help it, then fine, by all means, wear the suit. Just make sure you loosen your tie and lose the jacket – not literally!

Take into consideration where you’re going….

Because once you have this vital information dressing for the occasion will be made far easier. But regardless of location these commandments should always be remembered when dressing for a date.

• Thou shalt not wear-flip flops or crocs.

• Thou shalt not wear that gimmicky T-shirt your auntie bought you last Christmas.

• Thou shalt not wear shorts. Yes, that includes denim.

• Thou shalt not wear clothes you have grabbed from the laundry pile.

A women’s sense of smell is far higher than that of mans. Follow those simple rules and you’ll be able to lay the foundations of a great date night outfit successfully.

However, if you’re stuck for ideas, here’s an example of the ideal date ensemble you can use that’s bound to impress on a variety of occasions. Of course, if chinos aren’t your thing, then opt for jeans instead. And if it’s more of a casual affair, switch out the shoes for a pair of classic canvas trainers, and the shirt for a well-ironed crew neck T-shirt. It’s as simple as that. Good luck!

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Looking for the perfect first date outfit guys? head on over to http://theidleman.com/

 

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The Spring Fling London Singles Party

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Looking for a London Singles Party with a Twist?!

Then join up to 300 people from across London for a night of outrageous flirting and lots of fun with Original Dating at their Spring Fling. This party features a lock & key icebreaker and loads of speed dating sessions so you’ll effortlessly meet lots of people and have an absolute ball. We’ve booked a top covers band and secured one of The City’s best venues which combined make this party one of the most sociable nights of the year.

300 people are expected and a 50:50 male/female ratio is guaranteed so expect lots of fun! Tickets are £22 but use the promo code: MUTUAL and you’ll get 20% off! BOOK HERE

This is going to be an epic party and here’s the run down of the ‘need to know’s':

Important Information

When: Saturday, 11 April 2015

Where: Anthropologist Bar

Age Guide: 25-40

20:00 – Doors open [Please arrive on time] 20:30 – Lock and key and speed dating sessions begin
23:30 – Final speed dating session ends
00:00 – Last orders at the bar

Fancy winning a pair of tickets?

To win a pair of tickets just send your name and age to win@mutualattraction.co.uk by the 9th April and we’ll be in touch if you’re the lucky winner! Good luck x

 

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London Date Idea: Momo Moroccan Restaurant

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On the search for a great London date idea? Then consider Moroccan restaurant Momo’s, in the heart of the West End, for a romantic dinner with charm, ambience and a real authentic Moroccan vibe.

Friday nights are always reserved for my other half Christian. We both work a lot of evenings during the week so we have a rule that Friday night is ‘our night’. Sometimes that means slobbing out on the sofa and other nights, like this week, it means dinner out, this time with friends.

Tucked away on vibrant Heddon Street, I loved Momos the minute I entered. The small of cinnamon and spices filled the air and the dark restaurant was lit with candles. The friendly staff took us to our table which couldn’t have been more perfect.

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Our table for 4 was in the right hand corner. It was very dark but this led to the mood of the restaurant and candles gave the perfect amount of light…

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We shared a selection of starters including ‘mechouia’ charcoal roasted peppers and paprika which packed a real punch, ‘ceviche of the day’ (fish) with green chilies, fresh lime and coconut milk and the chicken briouat that I had been craving all day.

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I’m pleased to say it did not disappoint and the subtle saffron and confit apricot paired with the chicken made for a very moreish dish. The seared scallops weren’t for me. I know a run the risk of sounding completely ridiculous if I say they were too fishy (I know, they should be fishy as they are….fish!) but….they were too fishy!! Rather surprisingly my favourite starter was the wood pigeon pastille – pigeon with almonds and cinnamon.

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5 starters between 4 of us accompanied with the bread that was out of this world was enough to wet our appetite for the mains, they aren’t large portions but perfectly sized.
We had 2 Couscous Momo – Lamb shank, charcoal grilled lamb skewers and merguez, 1 Lamb couscous – Charcoal grilled skewers of marinated lamb and 1 rabbit tagine. It was here I had SERIOUS food envy! I ordered the lamb couscous and it came out 2 small teeny tiny skewers of lamb. Then the lamb shank came out….it looked AMAZING! I can safely say, it was! Which means Christian had to share and I can tell you he really did NOT want to share! :lol:

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I didn’t get any photos of actual food, I tried but it was too dark. Here’s hat the brunch looks like though!

A large bowl of couscous was brought out and served along with a bowl of vegetable in a flavoursome gravy. Overall a delicious meal without feeling stuffed and room for dessert.

It was here Momo triumphed. The chocolate fondant was in no short terms out of this world. Worth going for alone. Usually Christian and I would share but thank god we didn’t or we may have ended up in a fork fight!

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The real star quality with Momos is not the food. Though delicious, for me it was the setting that made this a special London date venue. Romantic, alluring and intimate yet still with a great atmosphere, Momos is perfect for an end of week date to unwind and start your weekend in style. It is quite dark and perhaps too intense for a first date, but once those ‘do I like you’ initial dates are out the way, reserve a table at Momos.

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**Tip – there are some really special, romantic tables and to bag yourself one of these call ahead to make a reservation a few or two in advance. Don’t make a reservation online, instead call and put in a request with the lovely staff who will be happy to oblige do their best for you. Gents – this will go a long way!**

 

Opening Hours

Momo Restaurant Website

RESTAURANT

 Restaurant Lunch

Monday – Friday: 12pm to 2.30pm

Saturday – Sunday: 11am to 3pm

Restaurant Dinner

Monday-Saturday: 6:30pm to 1am (11.30pm kitchen closes)

Sunday: 6:30pm – midnight (11.00pm kitchen closes)

Restaurant Brunch

Saturday – Sunday: 11am to 3pm

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Tips for Dating After a Divorce (or a Long Relationship)

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Last weekend I met a guy in his 50s who is starting to delve in to the world of dating. After the break down of his 36 year marriage (yowzas) he feels ready to meet someone new, well, he thinks. He’s not quite sure and understandably – it’s a big step!

Because he met his ex wife when he was in his late teens he has never really ‘dated’ as such and Tinder? Well that scared the bejesus out of him (his words!).

Dating after a divorce or long relationship

Scary? Daunting? Exciting? A mixture of all 3?! I teamed up with online dating website http://www.strictlydating.com to film a short and sweet (i’m talking less than 2 minutes!) video giving you guys a few tips on getting back into the dating saddle!

Bye for now……

Caroline
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